I'm a man and fan of menstruation
- how can I get my wife to open up and let me pleasure her
when she's on the rag?
To make a long answer short, do not mix up YOUR pleasure with
your partner's pleasure. It is one thing to let your partner
know what turns you on and reassure her that you find her
period erotic; it's quite another to pressure her into doing
something she does not currently find "pleasurable".
There could be many reasons she doesn't want to share her
bloody flow with you - maybe you need to
"open up" and hear those reasons, respecting her
boundaries while not assuming you know more about her body
than she does. This is HER period and body, not yours. Instead
of telling her what you could do to "pleasure her"
try ASKING her what would make her happy/feel pleasure when
she's on the rag (if she says, "nothing" this probably
means she suspects she's being manipulated and pressured).
You should be ready to be her menstruation slave, fetching
her hot water bottle, going to the store and buying exactly
the correct brand of tampons she requires, doing all of the
dishes so she can stay in bed and bleed peacefully, and leaving
her ALONE if that's what she wants. If you're not willing
to do that, then chances are you don't give a shit about your
wife's pleasure. If she refuses to talk about any of this
after many patient attempts (note: NOT after constant haranguing)
over months, the two of you have more serious problems than
sexual compatibility and need to learn to communicate with
I'm a feminist and find BloodyTrixie.com
& porn offensive!
I prefer to be a whole person (a capitalist whore, a sexual
being, a provocateur, an explorer AND a feminist) rather than
give up my right to experience life in all its fullness in
an attempt to conform to one narrow feminist agenda or another.
I'm not interested in conforming to your approved women's
agenda any more than I'm interested in conforming to your
perception of men's agenda. To me, being a feminist means
fighting for the right for everybody to set their own personal
agenda regardless of gender as long as it doesn't hurt other
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